I am aware of a weakness of mine. I am a bit too quick to go back to a relationship that was hurtful. In other words, I don’t think I have a great grasp of reconciliation. Can you provide me with some cautions as I reflect on this vital concept of reconciliation?
Here are three cautions for you:
- If you reconcile too quickly without the other showing any remorse, repentance, or recompense, then this could be a false reconciliation in which you may be hurt again in the same way.
- Please do not think of forgiving and reconciling as the same. You can forgive from the heart, but then not reconcile if the other continues to be a danger to you. If you equate the two, then as you forgive, you may feel a false obligation to reconcile.
- If you are still angry and unforgiving, you might, without realizing it, use reconciliation as a weapon: you come together in a superficial way, then keep reminding the other how bad he/she has been and how good you have been. This is why forgiveness must precede deep reconciliation.
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