What is the difference between transcending one’s anger and forgiving?

You can transcend your anger and still have condemning thoughts toward someone who was unfair to you.  In other words, getting rid of the anger does not mean that you are focusing goodwill toward this other person.  Forgiveness is person-centered.  If the anger is transcended without a thought about the other, this is not forgiveness.  If you are reducing your anger specifically toward the other, in the sense of seeing personhood in the other, and even the possibility of reconciliation if this person changes hurtful ways, this is forgiveness.

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