What would you say to someone who refuses to reconcile with the one who hurt him or her?

The person who refuses to reconcile might have legitimate trust issues in that the other person continues to behave unjustly.  The person who refuses to reconcile, rather than struggling with legitimate trust issues toward the other person, may have inner turmoil to such an extent that it is difficult to reach out in forgiveness, which is a step before reconciliation.  In this latter case, the one who will not reconcile may need first to work on forgiving and on  his or her own trust issues.  In other words, deep hurts and unforgiveness can make it difficult to  trust people who are trustable.

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