How can I be sure that I want to go on the forgiveness journey?
I would recommend that you focus on the following questions to help you make this decision:
1. Has the person truly been unfair to you? In other words, are there extenuating circumstances for the person so that you conclude: What happened to me was not unfair now that I think more deeply about it?
2. If you determine from point 1 above that there was an injustice, then how deeply are you hurt from this? Is the injustice interfering with your well-being or with your relationship with the other person? If the answer is yes to these questions, then moving forward with forgiving is reasonable.
3. Even if there is no disruption as seen in your answer to #2 above, do you want to forgive because to forgive is good in and of itself? If so, then moving forward with forgiveness is reasonable.
4. Do you have the will to move forward with forgiving? In other words, are you making a free-will choice to forgive without excessive pressure from others?
Your answers to these questions may help you to decide whether or not to go forward with forgiving.
