Lately, I have entered what you call the Decision Phase of forgiveness. In making the decision to forgive my former friend, I feel lighter, less angry. Might this be enough so that I do not have to then enter what you call the Work Phase of forgiveness?
Let us take an analogy. Suppose you decide to take out a membership in a health club to get in good physical shape. You feel good about your decision. Are you now in good physical shape because you will be taking out the membership, or do you have to open that gym door, use the exercise machines over time, and build your muscles and your endurance? Decisions alone will not make you forgivingly fit. Yes, you may feel good for making the decision, but now it is time to hit that forgiveness gym to become forgivingly fit.
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