I have been hurt in a romantic relationship that lasted three years. I think this painful experience helped me to become a more sensitive person to others’ pain. Yet, in my becoming a sensitive person, I now am wondering if I have become a weaker person, not as strong as before. As an example, I am less likely to speak up when people annoy me because I see others’ pain, even when they are displacing it onto others. Sensitive vs, strong: What do you think?
Your being sensitive to other people need not lead to the conclusion that you are now weak. You do not seem to hesitate in speaking up out of fear, but out of insight—-knowledge that the one who is annoying is acting out of internalized pain. Please keep in mind that, as you see the other person’s pain, you still can move ahead with the moral virtue of justice and ask something of others. With your forgiving heart, the way you ask for justice now may be different, more gentle and patient than before, because you are realizing that you are addressing a hurting person.
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